This is where the conflict is.
It is challenging but the grace of God helped me to raise God fearing children and strong leadership that are mature enough to step into their responsibilities without partiality. The church leadership also understood the warfare involved in the assignment, so they are gracious.
# In some black African circles there is an unspoken rule that the man should be in a more prominent position than his wife. This has led many women ministers to want to push their husbands to the forefront in a bid to honor him, irrespective of whether he is called or not. What do you have to say about this issue? Can a married woman serve alone without her husband in ministry by her side or must they serve together?
It would be best to have “Priscilla and Aquila” type of husband-and-wife ministry for us all. They were first century missionaries. But note, both were fellow workers in Christ Jesus with Apostle Paul. (Acts 18:1-28)
It is in our culture to impose husbands on the Church and this exposes them to unnecessary demonic attacks that they were never equipped or anointed to fight. Please ministry is not family chieftainship to honor. Your husband is either Called alongside you in ministry or he is a professional/businessman to make money and feed his family. You never see Mr & Mrs. President with the wife in the official role side by side. Each one must find their mission on earth and fulfill it. That doesn’t mean that your husband cannot serve in the ministry, but it is not equal power of him being above in ministry. Respect is earned before it is commanded. Let him earn the respect of your leaders and the church too.
To those of you just starting I advise you not to force your husband to stand by your side. Let him be prepared by the Lord. Pray for him as you will pray for men in your congregation or anywhere. Please pray, pray, and pray.
When the Lord Called you, He called you knowing you are a married woman.
You are the Deborah. He will give you your Barak.
# Did you ever feel discouraged and misunderstood in this journey and if yes how did you prevail over these setbacks?
