Sisters-in-law, please remember this woman is not your rival, doormat, or slave. She is one with your brother and deserves maximum respect. Prepare to love her despite who she is. She has not married you but her husband. Don’t try and make her what you are or who you want for him. She is his cross and all you can do is to support him to carry it. You have not been hired to make her life miserable so don’t take on that ministry. Stay away as much as possible and visit to be a blessing, not a problem. Add value whenever you visit and let them look forward to your visit not look forward to your exit.

Brother-in-law, remember your brother is now married and is not your cash cow. He has a home to build and would support you but help him to build capacity and upward investment, not downward investment. Look for ways to be a blessing. Offer to come and care for the home so they can rest a bit. Let your visit not be to collect money or goods always. Let your phone calls not be one of demands always.