Papa on both sides, remember they are leaving you to start a new home. Call them from time to time, offer words of encouragement, and bless them. We know most times you are not the problem but your apathy can be a problem as well. Rein your wives and other children in. Help them to remain invisible in these new homes and be firm about it.

Finally, Sisters and brothers-in-law, Let me offer you some advice. Your sister is now about to marry but please don’t be an intruder. Many sisters-in-law cause unrepairable damage in the new home due to rights they think they have in this new marriage. They expect the man to become their ATM. Yes, he will help but his focus is his immediate family.

Don’t put undue pressure on your sister to meet all your needs because she is now married. It causes serious rifts in the home. You do not have a right to stay in your brother’s home. It is not an extension of your father’s home. Your brother is not bound to fund your lifestyle but to support you as much as is practicable and with his wife being involved. Yes, I said that. She must be involved. They are one. There are no clandestine financial transactions to either family without the knowledge of the other.

Your hand cannot spend without the eye seeing it or else it would be foolishness and lead to chaos. And both must be reasonable in dealing with such transactions because they can bring friction if handled badly.