She would not cook like you, wash like you or tidy up like you but with love, you can add to what she knows not imposing how you do It but add to what she has to make her better. She has not raised a child before so she needs your help to raise one. Don’t insult her but support her. There are no dummies to train an aspiring mother so we mostly learn on the job. No two children are the same but we can gain tips that will add value to what we know.
My wife never knew how to deal with the blocked nose of a 6-month-old baby because she had never had one. I knew what to do and did. I learnt from my mother. Mama, your son’s house is not your battleground but your love ground. It is where you can practicalise the love you have been taught in church. Don’t be a pain.
So before the wedding day can you make up your mind to be a positive influence rather than a pain to this new home. You don’t need to be there all the time. Respect yourself and respect the couple.
Mama from the daughter’s side, have you realised she is leaving to start her own home? It is not your pension scheme or business empire. It is not your entitlement so slow down, breathe in and breathe out.
Your daughter now has a head and you must respect that. She is not the boss and you cannot invade that space willy nilly. You must respect your son-in-law and give them space to grow their hone. All you can do is pray and offer advice. Don’t pitch your daughter against her in-laws but teach her to love and respect them. Love always wins. I know there are some difficult in-laws but love would always win the day. Stay away as much as you can. Come on invitation and let that be an agreement between the two. Maintain a cordial relationship with your son-in-law. Speak to him and be an encourager. Let him trust you and not see you as a threat.